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One of the hardest moments in recovery is the moment after a slip. It often sounds like this: “I was doing so well… and then I messed up.” Maybe it was a stressful week. Maybe it was emotional eating after a difficult day. Maybe it was simply feeling overwhelmed and turning to food again. And suddenly it feels like all the progress is gone. So many people quietly disengage at that point. Not because they don’t care. But because starting again feels exhausting. But sustainable

“And do not seek what you are to eat and what you are to drink, nor be worried. For all the nations of the world seek after these things, and your Father knows that you need them. Instead, seek his kingdom, and these things will be added to you.” Luke 12:29-31 (NIV) We worry about so many things – including what we will eat. God’s Word tells us not to worry many times throughout the Bible. We gain nothing by worrying and only lose health physically, mentally and spiritually.

Sometimes people reach Step 6 and feel stuck. I know I did. You’ve done the inventory. You’ve admitted the patterns. You can clearly see the resentment, fear, perfectionism, or self-condemnation that keeps showing up in your life — and sometimes in your eating. And yet… letting it go can feel scary. Many of the defects we developed were once a form of protection. They helped us cope with pain, rejection, or fear. So even when we know they’re hurting us now, part of us still w

Many people understand why they overeat. They can identify their triggers. They know which emotions tend to lead to unhealthy choices. They may even have a plan in place. And yet… when life gets stressful or busy, those insights don’t always translate into action. Because behavior change doesn’t happen in isolation. When food becomes both a coping tool and a consequence, it can be difficult to interrupt those patterns alone — especially in discouraging seasons. Sometimes what

There’s a moment in recovery when many people quietly disengage. It sounds like: “I was doing so well… and then I messed up.” Maybe it was: • A stressful week • A missed meeting • A weekend of emotional eating • A return to an old habit And suddenly it feels like all your progress is gone. So instead of beginning again… you stop trying. Not because you don’t care. But because starting over feels exhausting — especially when life is already busy. But sustainable change rarely

You can know why you overeat. You can understand your emotional triggers. You can even have a plan… …and still struggle to follow through when life gets busy. Progress often isn’t lost because you stopped caring — it’s lost because you got overwhelmed. Appointments get missed. Meals become reactive instead of intentional. The structure that was helping starts to slip away. And sometimes the issue isn’t knowledge — it’s that you don’t feel like you can say “no” to the demands

“Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.” Proverbs 12:25 (NIV) This truth from God through Solomon reminds us that we all have anxiety and have the ability to help others with kind words. In recovery groups, this is especially helpful. We understand the tendency for us to go to food when we are anxious. Our support groups are a great place to give and receive kind words and encouragement. Let’s remember to build each other up today and every day! Dear Lor

After your Fourth Step is complete and you’ve filled out your resentments form, it’s time to schedule a meeting with a Fifth Step partner. An accountability partner or trusted friend can walk with you through this process. As you go over your Fourth Step worksheet together, leave nothing out. Share honestly about your past — your hurts, your fears, and your struggles. A trusted listener can help you identify patterns and gently see your part in them. And once you begin to see

I used to sneak extra donuts at work when nobody was looking. I’d tell myself I’d only take one — and then later, I’d circle back, hoping no one noticed. Sometimes I’d even break it in half so it didn’t look like I took a full one, although you know I went back for that second half. The shame afterward was worse than the sugar. And I remember wondering why I couldn’t just stop at one like everyone else seemed to do so easily. But they would call to me. For years, I believed t

Emotional eating often doesn’t happen out in the open — it happens in isolation. When we’re overwhelmed by thoughts or emotions, it’s easy to turn to food for quick comfort. Many of us isolate so we can overeat without embarrassment. But that isolation is exactly where the struggle grows stronger. Sometimes what feels like physical hunger is actually loneliness — one of the key parts of the HALT acronym we use in recovery (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired). Loneliness is a powerf

Have you ever thought: “I just need more willpower.” Many of us have tried to overcome overeating by: • trying harder • being more disciplined • making better plans And for a while, that may even work. But when stress hits, the same eating patterns often return. That’s because overeating is rarely just a willpower problem. For many people, food has quietly become a coping mechanism for: • stress • loneliness • grief • discouragement • or emotional overwhelm Trying harder does

Many people who struggle with overeating already know what to do. They understand nutrition. They’ve tried diets. They’ve promised themselves “this time will be different.” But knowledge alone doesn’t break the overeating that is often done in isolation. Isolation is often where compulsive eating grows stronger. In our latest Reshape and Recover podcast episode, Tony and I talk about why accountability partners play such a vital role in recovery — not as supervisors, but as s

Many people who struggle with overeating already know what to do.   They know about: • portion sizes • healthier food choices • how much protein they should be eating • what time they should stop eating at night   And yet, when stress hits, they often return to the same eating patterns they were hoping to change.   This usually isn’t because they lack knowledge.   Often, it’s because food has quietly become a coping mechanism for stress, grief, loneliness, discouragement, or

“Show me your ways, Lord, teach me your paths; guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long. Remember, Lord, your great mercy and love, for they are from of old.” Psalm 25:4–6 King David looks to the Lord here for wisdom and guidance. God is the Maker of all things, and His wisdom is greater than anything we can comprehend. When we look to Him, our hope is in the Lord instead of in ourselves. And when our hope is in Him, w

Step Four helps us begin to understand why we turn to food in the first place.   Not because we’re weak — but because something deeper has been driving the behavior.   As I wrote in my book:   “The point is to understand why we’ve done some of the things we’ve done and learn it is no longer necessary to eat to deal with our emotions.” — 12 Steps to Recovery From Overeating   Many of us have been emotional eaters for years.   But when we take an honest look at our resentments

“Let us not give up meeting together… but encourage one another.”— Hebrews 10:25 Before I found recovery, I thought my struggle with food was something I had to handle on my own. Then I found Overeaters Anonymous — and once I did, I rarely skipped a meeting. Being with others who understood made a real difference. But over time, I realized I also needed a place where I could talk openly about my faith in Jesus — not just my eating struggles. Hebrews 10:25 reminds us not to gi

Have you ever eaten… and then gone back for more even though you weren’t physically hungry? Not because your body needed food — but because you were tired or stressed or discouraged or lonely? This is where so many of us get confused. We think the problem is that we need more willpower. But what if that’s not actually true? What if you’re not physically hungry? What if it’s something else? Sometimes what we’re feeling is emotional hunger. Sometimes it’s spiritual hunger. Some

For years, I carried shame about my weight everywhere I went. I bought clothes that hid it as best they could. Loose tops. Dark colors. Anything that would make me look smaller than I felt. But there was no hiding it. And there was definitely no hiding the shame. I constantly wondered, "What is wrong with me? Why can’t I control my eating?" I loved God. I believed in Him. But deep down, I didn’t think He loved me enough to help me with this. That shame followed me into every

Isolation can feel like protection — but in recovery, it often becomes a trap. Have you ever noticed that the moment you feel tempted, ashamed, or like you’ve blown it… that’s usually when you stop showing up? In this episode, Isolation: A Slippery Slope, we talk about why staying connected is one of the strongest relapse-prevention tools we have — and why recovery was never meant to be done alone. You’ll hear honest conversation about: • Why the urge to isolate is so strong

I’m excited to share the new look for my Daily Food and Step Journal — a Christ-centered recovery tool designed to support those working toward freedom from overeating. This journal goes beyond reflection alone. It includes: ✔️ Daily food planning and tracking  ✔️ Step prayers  ✔️ Morning and evening review  ✔️ Gratitude and inventory writing  ✔️ A place for prayer and meditation Recognizing that overeating is often a physical, emotional, and spiritual struggle, this journal